Going against YouTube hate/negativity feeds the algorithm was a big motivator back in my internet days. It’s sad really but rage drives the clicks. That’s what I try to remember most when I see some kind of horrendous video or article or post. They honestly want you mad more than they want you to agree. I’m not convinced that most of the trolls even believe what they say or understand the implications of it. They love the rush of power they feel when they can turn someone’s mood. Or the money they get from the clicks.
TikTok can also be a hellhole of people throwing their unsolicited mean opinion! I use the block button on there so I’m sure they won’t stumble upon my videos again and try to tame my flame :)
The last part is so true and helpful. Whenever I feel energizing emotions like anger set in, instead of using that energy to fight back, I try to redirect it into creating.
While the human mind is programmed to give negative feelings more meaning, which is something one has to learn to accept in order to overcome it, it's essential to realise that we also have the power to change how much meaning a feeling can get. That's why I also love what you said about spreading love instead 🫶🏻
I once found myself the target of an online troll army when I dared post something critical of their dear leader’s choice of words regarding women. I tried for the better part of a day to score points in argument until a post I made about how the fact that I had grown and changed the way I spoke was then turned around to be the opposite of what I was saying. So, I deleted all my tweets and blocked all those I’d interacted with that day. The best thing to do is not to engage, I’ve found. You aren’t going to convince those sorts of people.
Another part that resonated with me is being my own worst critic. I don’t think anyone else will ever be as savage as my own self-criticism.
Thanks for sharing. I've ignored or brushed off my very limited hate in the past. One review for self-published book, that I put out there when I saw twelve, will always stick with me though (not word for word but): 'I want to blowtorch my corneas so my kid can't ask me to read this to them anymore.' It's quite creative really.
It's so easy to get so wound up by their nonsense that you end up looking up what they're talking about and before you know it, you're up to your elbows in conspiracy theories, conversations with their blinkered friends, or news stories that just make you angry.
Often I'm not even sure what for. To prove them wrong? To check the facts? To see what other people are saying? I never engage, but that stubborn part of my brain sometimes still has me do the research.
How I deal with haters online
Going against YouTube hate/negativity feeds the algorithm was a big motivator back in my internet days. It’s sad really but rage drives the clicks. That’s what I try to remember most when I see some kind of horrendous video or article or post. They honestly want you mad more than they want you to agree. I’m not convinced that most of the trolls even believe what they say or understand the implications of it. They love the rush of power they feel when they can turn someone’s mood. Or the money they get from the clicks.
I just co-signed. Now we're partners in this campaign to stop feeding the trolls ;)
much ❤ !!
TikTok can also be a hellhole of people throwing their unsolicited mean opinion! I use the block button on there so I’m sure they won’t stumble upon my videos again and try to tame my flame :)
Well said. And personally I loved those children's books (I still hold out a vain hope there'll be more)
Excellent strategy!
The last part is so true and helpful. Whenever I feel energizing emotions like anger set in, instead of using that energy to fight back, I try to redirect it into creating.
While the human mind is programmed to give negative feelings more meaning, which is something one has to learn to accept in order to overcome it, it's essential to realise that we also have the power to change how much meaning a feeling can get. That's why I also love what you said about spreading love instead 🫶🏻
I once found myself the target of an online troll army when I dared post something critical of their dear leader’s choice of words regarding women. I tried for the better part of a day to score points in argument until a post I made about how the fact that I had grown and changed the way I spoke was then turned around to be the opposite of what I was saying. So, I deleted all my tweets and blocked all those I’d interacted with that day. The best thing to do is not to engage, I’ve found. You aren’t going to convince those sorts of people.
Another part that resonated with me is being my own worst critic. I don’t think anyone else will ever be as savage as my own self-criticism.
Thanks for sharing. I've ignored or brushed off my very limited hate in the past. One review for self-published book, that I put out there when I saw twelve, will always stick with me though (not word for word but): 'I want to blowtorch my corneas so my kid can't ask me to read this to them anymore.' It's quite creative really.
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It's so easy to get so wound up by their nonsense that you end up looking up what they're talking about and before you know it, you're up to your elbows in conspiracy theories, conversations with their blinkered friends, or news stories that just make you angry.
Often I'm not even sure what for. To prove them wrong? To check the facts? To see what other people are saying? I never engage, but that stubborn part of my brain sometimes still has me do the research.